What to do When Your Libido has Fallen and Can’t Get Up!

November 8 2017

Jacqueline Rosenhek


Ok so I am going to assume that you readers are responsible (more or less let’s get real here) adults that know what sex is and I am pretty sure that many of you have had sex before too! For those of you with enough sexual experience and/or knowledge, you probably know that the libido (sexual drive) comes in waves that are dependent on your personal health, age, medication, diet, activity levels and so on. What do you do when, for some reason, your libido just feels almost nonexistent? Yes, some people do not have an interest in sex and identify as asexual, or have gone through something very traumatic that would make someone possibly abstain from sexual contact and those situations should be respected without question. However, there are many other situations where that is not the case. There are many instances where losing your libido could be a sign of stress, poor health or something more along those lines. Unfortunately there are many things we do that completely kill our sex drives or at least reduce them by a lot and sadly, having a low libido can hurt a lot of romantic relationships. For men, being overweight could be a potential sex drive killer. In overweight men, the fat cells produce estrogen (the female hormone) which reduces sex drive. Living a sedentary lifestyle and eating unhealthy foods regardless of your weight is actually a big libido killer in general.

Excessive drinking is another mood killer. There is no doubt that alcohol is a depressant, thus causing the body to slow down. It is also a vasodilator which makes it difficult for men to achieve or maintain an erection or for women to reach climax as easily. Stress is a very well-known mood killer. Life moves pretty fast and because of that people are struggling to find time to be intimate with one another amongst their countless other daily activities, or they are just too worn out from the day, similar sentiments could be said for those who suffer from mental illness and might be going into a negative episode which can involve things such as irregular sleep patterns, poor diet and an overall lack of physical activity.

Maintaining a healthy libido breaks down to having a healthy body and a healthy mind. There are a few things you can do which will help keep those things. First of all communication with whoever you want to be intimate with is absolutely key. Never forget that at the end of the day, if you still do not want to have sex, your partner has to respect that, consent is key. Communications helps to break some barriers that could be standing between you and your partner from truly enjoying each other in a sexual context.  Regular exercise is also important for maintaining a healthy sex drive. When you exercise regularly, your body produces more testosterone which boosts your libido and improves your sex life. Not only that, but you improve your physical stamina with regular cardio exercises. Regular exercise also ties in with stress reduction. It has been discussed in a previous article the plethora of health benefits it provides which can have a direct benefit towards your sex life, same with eating healthier. There are many natural supplements you can take as well that will not only boost your sexual vigor but have many other health benefits as well. Maca and ginseng are two prime examples of natural supplements that could help in this department. Not only do they help to boost the libido and fertility, they also help reduce stress related fatigue and improve circulation and focus! It is also important to have a very complete diet consisting of lean proteins, iron, magnesium, zinc, chrome and all different types of vitamins in order to keep yourself healthy and sexy. What it comes down to is your sexual capabilities are partially reliant on how well you take care of yourself. If you take care of yourself and do what you can to maintain a healthy life, you will reap more benefits than an improved sex life.

1 year ago

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *